10 Ways To Overcome Job Search Frustration

Is job search has become a nightmare for you? Are you frustrated with your job search?

If so, don’t worry because you are not alone. That kind of frustration is more common than you think.

It can be very frustrating to look for opportunities when none seems to exist. You certainly don’t intentionally set on a mission of finding a job with the intent of being rejected. Rejection doesn’t feel good for nobody. However, for the unemployed the stress caused by constant rejections is all too familiar.  

You need to remember that the job search is more like a marathon and less like a sprint, so you should be prepared to hit some walls along the way.

Just keep a level head and make some changes to improve your approach, and you will be able to overcome any given misfortune.

You probably think that is easier to say than to actually do it.

Maybe you’re right, but I dare you to follow these 10 tips that will help you overcome job search frustration.


1. Face your feelings

Depression, anxiety, and fear are most common feelings for people who have been unsuccessfully looking for a job for a long period. Those feelings are not good companions because the can make it harder for you to get back on the job market. You have to figure out how to actively deal with your feelings and find healthy ways to distress.

Only if you acknowledge your feelings and challenge your negative thoughts you will survive the emotional roller coaster and move on with your head up.


2. Involve your friends and family

You should keep the lines of communication open and talk about what you’re going through with trusted friends or member of your family. That person maybe will not offer you the solution, but can be a good listener. Sometimes you can feel better by sharing your problem with a person who will understand you.

Keeping secrets is never a good thing to do and especially if it’s about job loss. Your unemployment affects the whole family, so you should involve them in your job search plans.

Let them know how you will spend your time, update them on your job search developments, and tell them about how they can support you while you’re unemployed. Listen to their concerns and give them a chance to offer their suggestions.

Trust me, working together as a family will help you survive and thrive, even in this difficult time.


3. Take care of yourself

The stress of unemployment and long-term job search can take a toll on your health. Especially now, you have to look after your emotional and physical needs and make frustration management a priority.

You should maintain balance in your life and don’t let your job search consume you. Make time for the things you like to do - rest, and relaxation, fun, and playing games, stay in nature etc. If you are physically, mentally, and emotionally at your best your job hunting will be far more effective.

Get plenty of sleep because it can have a huge influence on your mood and productivity. 7 to 8 hours of sleep every night should be enough to help you keep your frustration level under control. It will also maintain your focus throughout your job search.

You should exercise on regular basis. Exercise is usually a great way to let it go all worries and stress while you’re looking for the job.

Practice relaxation techniques. Therefore, deep breathing, meditation, and yoga can be a powerful antidote to your frustration. These relaxation techniques can also boost your feelings of serenity and joy because they teach you how to stay calm in challenging situations—including job loss and long-term job searching.

Don't hold down your anger. I mean, always focusing on the positive side is a great way to live by, but sometimes you just have to unleash the fury.

Always-positive thinking and smiling and acting happy at all costs is not good life philosophy for all situations. That positive thinking has its limits and sometimes you just have to let the volcano blow.

The point isn’t to stay in that angry space for long. You should just acknowledge that it’s there and express it so you can minimize the intensity of your frustration.  


4. Find a good support system for constructive criticism

Besides family and friends who are your biggest fans, you can get helpful critics from supportive former co-worker or professor who believed in you. They know your full potential and how you could improve, so ask them for constructive criticism. If you’re feeling like you’re trying everything but still getting nowhere, ask them to identify what are you doing wrong (resume formatting or interviewing etc.).

For example, who will help you with an interviewing problem if not your former professor who pushed you to do your best public speaking? He was encouraging you to perfect your abilities and pitching you to restart every time he found a fault. He was telling you to what exactly you did wrong. That must have been frustrating but also kept you going and made you deliver an effective work.


5. Consider part-time job or freelancing

Finding a job 9 to 5 in today’s market can be very hard. So, maybe you should consider something more flexible like part-time job or freelancing.  

Money is definitely the most important aspect of getting a job. In the process of finding a job with the steady paycheck, you can do part-time job or freelancing, just to keep paying your bills. It's an excellent alternative because you can.

Freelancing while searching for a full-time job definitely can build up your confidence, experience, and contact list. Think of it like training wheels, so you can take the plunge to ride on two wheels when you get full-time job. It can look good in your resume. ☺

Freelancing comes in many different shapes and sizes. Some people are good at designing, some people like to write, and some can work as freelance consultants. It doesn't matter what type of freelancer want to be, at the end of the day, you’ll providing a service to clients.

There are many freelance website as Upwork (used to be oDesk), Freelancer or Staff. There are platform that very efficiently connects employers with freelancers. You can consider them as the world’s largest freelance talent marketplaces, which are created in order to connect businesses with great talent faster than ever.

This platforms offer a world of work opportunities, for all skills you can think of - that can be done on a computer.

Also, as a freelancer you can learn how to better manage your time and money, to manage anything specifically linked to the services you offer and a business itself.

As you can see, freelancing and part-time job can give you new opportunities for your professional and personal growth.


6. Put Your Career Goals on Paper

You probably don't like questions like “Where do you see yourself in five years?” and try to avoid it. However, right now, when you’re in a downfall, that is exactly the right time to answer it.

Make a list of all of your wishes, big and small. Put them on paper and that action will actually force you to think about what you want to achieve. Even better, it will motivate you to see at least one goal (if not all of them) through.

Think of it like some kind of a to-do list for your career that you need to get through and you will get excited when you start checking things off, one by one. Include smaller, more specific tasks to reach out to two direct contacts every day or to get an appointment for on informational interviews, for example. Both things are not hard to do and can help you reach your goal of expanding your network.

Also, it could be more effective if you give yourself a weekly quota to apply on two or three jobs instead of just telling yourself that you have to find more jobs in general.

When your motivation is low, seeing your goals and wishes in writing may give you some ideas on how to tie them together. From getting the job you want to start your own company, each goal, no matter how random, can shed light on a new opportunity.


7. Join or start a job club

Don’t underestimate the importance of opinions from other people with same problems as yours. They can be invaluable sources of encouragement and support. Also, they can give you some good job leads. These are enough reasons to join or start your own job club. Just being around other job seekers can energize and motivate you, and help you stay on the right track during your job search.


8. Stay connected through networking

Many companies usually don't advertise their job openings and rather hire people by the recommendation. That’s why networking can be the best way to find a job. Many job seekers don't use the advantage of networking because they’re don't want to be pushy, annoying, or self-serving. They don't understand that networking isn’t about aggressively promoting yourself or using other people to get the job. It’s about building relationships that can be rewarding and fun and provide you with much-needed feedback, advice, and support.

Even if you’re a shy person or you feel like you don’t know many people, networking can help you meet other people and change your experience with them.


9. Help others

When you are so frustrated from a long job searching, it can be very helpful just to step out of the pot and focus on doing something else.

You should consider running errands for other people and have some extra money in your pocket. Web sites like taskrabbit.com – the popular online marketplace that connects professional, families or small businesses with people who will run errands like house cleaning, taking the dog for a walk, grocery shopping, house cleaning, gift deliveries, and many more services for payment.

Find the ways to help other people. Whether through formal volunteering or informal service, it can be very helpful to make you see the bigger picture, to draw your attention and awareness to the world outside your own life.

If you see challenges others are encountering it can provide you with a sense of perspective. Also, altruistic actions like helping others can have mental as well as physical health benefits.


10. Don't stop looking for the job

The biggest error that frustrated job seeker can make is to stop looking. The process of job searching is often very frustrating, and you're unlikely to gain what you want by waiting for the market to offer you that. That passive approach will never take where you want. If you just rely on some outside force to improve your situation you can hurt your chance to get the job you want. Instead of that, schedule some time every day to research new job possibilities, follow up on applications and network with your colleagues.



You can easily get stuck in draining cycle of job searching. One of the biggest challenges is to stay motivated to continue, especially when you're dealing with constant rejections. But, you can revive and maintain your motivation if you make simple changes to your job-search approach. Just focus more on you and what you want and less on all those resumes and cover letters and climb out of your motivational droop with ten tips I gave you in this article.

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Good Luck!